Maintain Boundaries Set During the Intervention
Even if the intervention failed, you likely set boundaries to help your loved one consider getting professional help. Whatever boundaries you put forth during that meeting still stand despite the outcome. One of the ways to stop the situation from spinning any further out of control for the entire family is to enforce the boundaries that protect the well-being of the larger family unit.
Drug abuse doesn’t just impact the person using drugs; it also impacts everyone around them. You must protect your own mental well-being and that of others in the family by reinforcing boundaries.
Prepare Yourself for a Poor Reaction
Once you set and enforce boundaries, your addicted family member may have a very negative reaction, and you and your loved ones may be the target of it. Interventions fail when families are ill-prepared for a bad outcome and the impact that may follow. Any future interventions to address drug or alcohol issues are incumbent on your ability to hold to your bottom line.
Get ready for a negative reaction and resolve among the entire family not to react, no matter how angry, stressed or sad your loved one may be.
Get Help on Your Own
Depending on the role you’ve played in your loved one’s drug abuse, this is the best time to get yourself therapy. Even with an unsuccessful intervention, it’s essential for the family to face the challenges together. Perhaps you’ve been traumatized by decisions your loved one made at the height of their addiction; alternatively, you may have issues with codependence or enabling. Whatever challenge you face, you’ve been negatively affected by your loved one’s alcohol and drug abuse in some way. Therefore, you must work on it despite your loved one’s unwillingness to do the same.
Substance abuse rarely impacts just the person struggling with drug and alcohol abuse. True recovery is only possible if the entire family unit gets help in breaking toxic patterns developed during active use. While drug use treatment is the first goal on the recovery journey, healing for the entire family is the ultimate ideal to attain. Getting therapy for the trauma you’ve endured due to exposure to your loved one’s drug and alcohol addiction is a step in the right direction for the entire family.
Learn More About Addiction
The more you know about drug abuse, the better prepared you’ll be about the realities of recovery and drug rehab. Interventions fail when families don’t understand addiction, often due to unclear statements, unrealistic expectations, and a lack of healthy boundaries. As such, addiction education can also help you plan a successful intervention. Take time to learn about a loved one’s addiction from a professional interventionist. Seek knowledge on your own from other professional resources so you better understand your loved one’s addiction and their need to receive treatment. Find out information about your loved one’s health insurance capabilities to determine what’s possible regarding treatment.
This is also a good opportunity to learn more about the treatment options available for substance use disorder. Educating yourself on addiction helps you understand any treatment plan recommended for your loved one and can set you up to be a more viable support for your addicted loved one. Moreover, intervention education provides tools to avoid another failed intervention.
Be Patient in Case of a Failed Intervention
Above all else, patience is the most important tool you can employ when your loved one refuses treatment. You may be on your first, second, or many more interventions in this process. You may have to exemplify a significant amount of patience when watching a loved one needing treatment and struggling in the throes of drug addiction.
The best thing you can do, barring another drug or alcohol intervention, is just wait until your loved one is ready and willing to accept treatment. Be ready if you’re needed immediately to help get them into treatment and avoid enabling behaviors that may render any intervention you might do useless. Substance use recovery is not a straight path; sometimes, the road to treatment is lined with many false starts. This doesn’t mean that intervention as an approach doesn’t work. Rather, it means that the complexities of this issue warrant added patience and hope.