Things Change

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer


When I am rigid and stuck in my ways, my days can become long and exhausting. During my days of drinking and drug use, it was “my way or the highway”. I was right and you were wrong. I was rigid and inflexible in my thinking. I was not willing to listen to what you had to say. Through working the 12-Steps, I have learned how to turn my will and my life over to the care of God. I have learned to open my heart and open my mind. The result being that my days are much easier. I have learned that being inflexible in my thinking causes me to have expectations. Those expectations are resentments waiting to happen. If I open my mind and if I am flexible, I have no expectations. Having no expectations means that I can be present and focus on the current moment. Being open and flexible allows me to change the way that I look at things. This is a much easier way to live life. This way of living leads to being happy, joyous, and free.

What is Alcoholics Anonymous?

“Alcoholics Anonymous® is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. There are no dues or fees for Alcoholics Anonymous membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. Alcoholics Anonymous is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.” (Wilson, 1939)

The goal of Alcoholics Anonymous is to prevent substance abuse and to promote sobriety. The main ways that Alcoholics Anonymous pursues its goal is through AA meetings, sponsorship, and working the 12-steps. Typically, a newly sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous is going to get a sponsor that will take him through the 12-steps, his sponsor will strongly suggest that he goes to ninety AA meetings during his first 90 days. Alcoholics Anonymous is funded by its members through donations. A normal donation is $1-$2 per meeting. As mentioned in step twelve, the message of Alcoholics Anonymous is carried to alcoholics by its members. Members of Alcoholics Anonymous are also called “pigeons”, as a pigeon carries a message. Recovery rates of members that actually work a program and follow the principles of AA have been reported upwards of 50% after a 24 month follow-up. (Bridgeman and McQueen, 1987, p 124).

Alcoholics Anonymous works if a person is willing to get a sponsor, work the steps, do service work, go to meetings on a regular basis, get connected into the Alcoholics Anonymous community, and follow the Alcoholics Anonymous principles in all affairs. As stated in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, “Rarely we have we seen a persona fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves.” The main problem with Alcoholics Anonymous is that a person needs to be willing to go to any lengths to get sober. This means that he will need to do everything prescribed by the Big Book and by his sponsor. This means that he will need to humble himself and take instructions, even when he doesn’t agree.