We are continuing our journey of spiritual growth at our sober living in Scottsdale, Arizona by following C.W. V. Straaten’s The Addiction Recovery Journal today and have come up to Day 3. If you are enjoying following along and seeing what wonderful things can happen in the span of 366 days please make sure to come back and join us.
“Day 3 – What does recovery mean to you?”
Before I really knew what recovery was through my own experiences I used to think that it just meant ‘being cured’ (shout out Passages lol), but now I know recovery isn’t just a quick fix or a word. Recovery is putting into practice the actions to support you no longer feeding into your past addictions. For me that means praying daily, meditating as often as possible, and accepting the world as it is instead of trying to shapeshift it into what I believe is how things ‘should be’. One thing I remember learning from my sponsors in the past is, “You should never be hard on yourself!”. So really what I’m saying is that recovery to me is a compilation of actions I do to keep myself spiritually, mentally, and emotionally fit.
Thanks for joining on the third day of our series at our sober living in Arcadia and Scottsdale for men and women with Camelback Recovery. Don’t forget like and follow us on Facebook and tune in here for the daily prompt! Until tomorrow, spiritual gangsters!
I’m back for the second day of our blogging growth series here at Camelback Recovery, a sober living home in Scottsdale and a sober living in Arcadia. We are going through The Addiction Recovery Journal by C.W. V. Straaten and responding to the daily prompt with all of your readers to grow spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. I hope you enjoy today’s blog and if you do please share on social media and be sure to like, follow, and comment on our post on the Facebook page. Thanks in advance spiritual fam!
“Day 2- What could people learn from you?”
As someone who has been in recovery and also worked in recovery for a female sober living program here in Scottsdale, I have attained many qualities that I believe would be beneficial for other people to attain themselves. Honestly, though, the one I feel like people could learn from me though would be being able to recognize when I am wrong and taking ownership of those things that I can improve on. Although recovery is mostly being willing to facilitate change within yourself even if it doesn’t necessarily happen 100% of the time. So although I still have moments where emotions may produce reactions, most of the time I am able to naturally be able to recognize the feeling of me acting in my defects. This is something so valuable to learn because it’s through that self-reflection and actively practicing the sixth step that as people in recovery we are able to become better versions of ourselves one right choice at a time.
Please let us know if you enjoyed reading and what your answer is to today’s prompt. We appreciate your feedback and support. Until tomorrow Camelback Recovery family!
Welcome to our blog on sober living in Scottsdale, Arizona! If you’re new to the blog this will be a very exciting time to start reading. I will be going through and writing a blog post a day on recovery following the book The Addiction Recovery Journal by C.W. V. Straaten. We shall start the challenges or prompts as asked by the book and I hope to grow through this journey as well as learn a little more about what it means to help men and women get into the appropriate sober living home. Please follow along and keep me motivated by commenting or sharing the blog on whatever social media site you have to gain more of a following. So without further ado here we go fam!
“Day 1 – If your addiction was a person how would you describe him or her? What is the one piece of advice you would give him/her?”
I don’t believe that people are good or evil, unfortunately, my Borderline Personality does seem to bring up that kind of black and white thinking at times that I typically combat with the principles I have learned by working through the 12 steps and actively working a program. Like many addicts and alcoholics, drinking and drugging were ‘but a symptom’ for me as the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous tells us. Although, if my addiction, as tumultuous as it was, filled with anger, victimization and hopelessness was if anything a broken soul. So if my addiction was a person who suffered as horribly as I remember then it would be someone I would empathize with, but not enable. Today I try not to take anyone’s inventory but the best suggestion made to my family that aided my growth as a person was not to continue to fund, co-sign or support the nonsense I put them through. Now I am so grateful because it was through my own will that I was able to be open to the guidelines outlined in the 12-steps. The best advice I could give this person (my addiction in human form, king of like how Will Farrel is my sense of humor in human form) would be that there is a solution and if they are able to put the same amount of effort into their recovery as they are into their addiction then maybe, just maybe, the person of addiction could be a person who’s recovered.
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Recovery Coaching and Sober Living Homes
Jeff helps his clients process emotions realize mental blocks, limiting beliefs, conditioned responses, and behavioral and relational patterns. He urges his clients to set appropriate boundaries in order to protect their sobriety. He holds them accountable for the commitments they make to change and supports them in moving forward in their lives.
Jeff’s passion is to guide others battling an addiction to find their “true selves” once again. To disconnect from their inner-critic and reconnect with their inner wisdom by quieting their mind, observing their ego, and learning to fully accept “what is” in every moment, regardless of circumstance, interpretation, or applied meaning. “True Peace awaits us all”.
Sober Living For Men and Woman
Living in an all-female sober living in Scottsdale has allowed me to not only grow in my recovery but also in my relationships with others. When I first entered the all-female sober living in Arizona I was unable to hold healthy relationships with men or women. You see I feared women and in my spiritually sick mind believes that all women either hated me or wanted something I had. It was through recovery that I was able to acknowledge that women were at the end of the day the people who would ultimately be able to keep me the most accountable. The reason this was a fact was that men were much easier to manipulate into my own self-seeking motives than another woman in recovery. This came as quite a shock at first.
I remember when my sponsor first told me I couldn’t be around men in recovery anymore and needed to reach out to women. At that time I only wanted to be around other sick women, but you know they do say ‘two sickies don’t make a wellie’. The sick women cosigned all my nonsense and allowed me to do all the things I shouldn’t have been doing. At the time this included me gossiping, still telling little “white lies” and doing the bare minimum to get by. Then my sponsor forced me to go to an all-women retreat in Prescott. I had every excuse not to go, but every excuse was countered by a legitimate reason why it was indeed possible. So not only did I go, but that was the weekend that I learned that women were my saving grace in recovery. If it had not been for the woman who was my spiritual guide at that time and forcing me to go I may not be alive today and that makes me so grateful for today.
Female Sober Living in Phoenix and Tucson
When I was driving from the all-female sober living in Scottsdale over to a friend, my navigation took me through an unfamiliar route. Before I realized it I was at a stop sign in front of a home that I used to sneak off to during lunch to use so I could get through my day. It reminded me of how difficult my life was in addiction and how now managing an all sober living in Scottsdale my life has drastically changed.
Later in my drive, I ended up on the front of a sober living a friend of mine lived in who recently was sent to prison for manslaughter. He was using and drove, just like I had been before, and got into a car accident and the other driver died. It’s so quick how you can go from sobriety to relapsing and making the biggest mistake of your life. That is the truth about this disease though! You can get into the solution and find recovery or you can continue down the path and end up incarcerated, institutionalized or dead.
Finally, on my way home I drove by a neighborhood by my old sober living in Phoenix, Arizona and wound up right where I had a car accident the day I relapsed. I had forgotten to put my car into “park” and my car slid right into oncoming traffic. I looked over to my door and I saw the window shatter and somehow I managed to jump over the center console, open the passenger door and pushed me and my friend hard enough that my car slid past us during the accident. I nearly lost my life that night.
All these different places triggered my memory that night and placed me in a position where I could dwell on the negativity or be grateful for the wonderful gifts I have today. I truly believe my higher power wanted to route me in a different direction so I could remember all the places I no longer want to be in.
Music Therapy For Sober Living in Tucson and Scottsdale
Music in recovery is one of the things that has made staying sober more enjoyable and inspiring at times as well. There are certain songs that remind me of specific times in my life that are directly associated with recovery for me in particular. When I was in rehab the first time I remember we were allowed to listen to the radio on a patio that we smoked on. I remember that sometimes at the nurse’s discretion some of us were allowed to have a late-night cigarette and we’d play music. One song by The Chainsmokers called “Paris” is a song I remember dancing to one night with a friend who ended up leaving treatment against medical advice and it hit me hard. I listen to that song and it can remind me of the wonderful times we danced to it or it can remind me of how easily someone can give up on recovery and at times walk away from what’s best for them at that moment.
There are other songs specifically about recovery that I hold particularly dear to my heart. For instance, “Sober” by Demi Lovato. This song talks about relapse and the pain of going back out in your recovery and the feelings felt explaining that to people who were rooting for you. In the song, Demi expressed not understanding why it happens but associates it with loneliness. I can remember relapsing multiple times and feeling like I’d let everyone down and even feeling embarrassed to come back and work my program of recovery again because of what people might think. The truth is that all these feelings are so relatable but coming back to recovery is really something I’d want anyone to keep attempting until they got it. Most people will tell you that recovery isn’t for people who want it, or people who need it necessarily but for the people who work for it. This feeling that people hold onto how many times you’ve gone back out seems silly in the scheme of things but only because the only places it could lead are prison, institutions or death. Everyone deserves a second, third or even hundredth chance at life if they really want it. This song cuts deep because that disappointment I felt in the past for relapsing was so hard to face and felt like an absolute defeat. Another song that speaks on the hard reality of relapse is “Otherside” by Macklemore. He describes withdrawal and still having people approach him about recovery when he only had a few hours of sobriety under his belt and the guilt he felt not being honest and coming clean about his relapse. This is also a common feeling because when people relapse there is an amount of shame that can come with it. The courage it takes to put out this kind of music when you’re someone looked up to for their recovery is uplifting. It can inspire people to be brave and take action and own their side of the street and that’s such a beautiful awakening to honesty.
Not all music about recovery is about relapse but some can refer to overcoming addiction and coming out on the other side stronger. “Sober” by Kelly Clarkson is a song about continuing on a hard road and not giving up and how things do eventually get better as you’re working on you. It’s helped me on days when I feel like giving up and I hope all these songs could potentially do that for you.
Whether songs in recovery just remind you of good times you’ve had, experiences in your life or potentially where you will go they all serve the purpose of being in the here and the now. Take a moment and listen to music and really hear what it means and you’ll realize almost any song can be compared to recovery or at least give you feelings you’ve felt in recovery and that’s what it all comes down to, the connection we have as humans with music. I like to listen to music and think about why I enjoy it and how it relates to my life, my addiction or my recovery and you can too. Use this to your advantage and you’ll be surprised the change music could make in your life.
About Camelback Recovery
Camelback Recovery provides sober living homes in Scottsdale and Tucson where recovery coaching in a structured and supportive environment that promotes long term transformational changes in our clients by focusing on 12-Step fundamentals, human connection, and accountability.
Sober Living Homes In Scottsdale and Tucson
Sober living is a safe place for people who need accountability to live in when they need a stepping stone from some kind of treatment back into the real world. It keeps them safe and guarded against the temptations of life on life’s terms with rules set up to do so. When people have spent some time in a sober living program it is only natural to become overconfident in their recovery or healing and think that everywhere they go from there will be just like what they are doing now. This feeling of safety and invisibility is often referred to as a ‘pink cloud’ in recovery and is a common feeling to fall into when things finally start getting better.
The truth is the real world is not like any sober living program. This can come as quite a shock and if taken to lightly could cause someone to misstep or overestimate their ability to handle certain situations. In the real world, there is no set of rules that need to be followed. For instance, there is no curfew which is a great tool to keep people in recovery from all the things that go bump in the night like bars, night clubs, strip clubs, casinos and all other miscellaneous activities that could take you down the wrong path. What I mean is that it is very easy not to fail when you stay on the plane of success. When someone is wanting to transition into reality it’s important to make sure certain precautions are enforced and that all possibilities are really considered. The main thing to look at is if the place you’re going to is a safe space. Will the people living in this space respect your recovery or healing? Or will they be participating in activities that are not conducive to your recovery? As people in recovery, we need to set boundaries with what we are okay with being around before placing ourselves in certain situations because waiting until we are in those moments can be too late. This is not meant to scare anyone out of sober living because naturally, that is a transitional home for anyone, but instead a good reminder to set up a safe place that makes sense for your specific headspace. Think about what triggers you or what is good for you and helps you be successful and make sure that all those things are available to you where you will be going. At the end of the day, it’s good to remember that only you know how to take care of yourself the best way possible. Trust your gut feelings and always play it safe because your healing process is the most important thing in your life. Without your recovery, it’s much easier to lose everything else.
Written by Dani Maldonado