Accepting Change



The winds of change blow through our life, sometimes gently, sometimes like a tropical storm. Yes, we have resting places – time to adjust to another level of living, time to get our balance, time to enjoy the rewards. We have time to catch our breath.

But change is inevitable, and desirable.

Sometimes, when the winds of change begin to rustle, we’re not certain the change is for the better. We may call it stress or a temporary condition, certain we’ll be restored to normal. Sometimes, we resist. We tuck our head down and buck the wind, hoping that things will quickly calm down, get back to the way things were. Is it possible we’re being prepared for a new “normal”?

Change will sweep through our life, as needed, to take us where we’re going. We can trust that our Higher Power has a plan in mind, even when we don’t know where the changes are leading.

We can trust that the change-taking place is good. The wind will take us where we need to go.

Today, help me, God, to let go of my resistance to change. Help me be open to the process. Help me believe that the place I’ll be dropped off will be better than the place where I was picked up. Help me surrender, trust, and accept, even if I don’t understand.

This is a great reading for me today! The path of least resistance is always easier. The path of least resistance is easier than change. However, change is sometimes needed. Change is how I get from point A to point B. I have to leave point A to get to point B. It is uncomfortable and scary to leave point A. When I leave point A, I am all alone. Being all alone can be scary and stressful. However, I need to remember to have faith. If I surrender and have faith that everything will work out the way its supposed to, then life is much easier and I am much happier. Staying in an unhealthy relationship can be the path of least resistance. Staying in an unhealthy relationship means that I have the comfort of being with a person that is familiar. We already have a connection. It is less work because we already know each other, we know about each other, likes and dislikes, etc. However, in the long run, staying in an unhealthy relationship is not good for either party. We all want to be happy, joyous, and free. Prayer and meditation, getting feedback from my sponsor and other guys in the program, and following my intuition will help me make the tough decisions to make changes in my life. Sometimes change needs to happen in order for God’s will to be done. I don’t know what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year, I just need to surrender, trust, accept, and do the next indicated thing.

Growth is the only Evidence of Life

Growth is the only evidence of life.

–John, Cardinal Newman

We should be thankful we can never reach complete serenity. If we could, we would never have the need to improve ourselves. We would stop growing, because there would be no reason to learn any more than we already know, and we would become bored. Even the things which seem so serene in nature usually contain a struggle within. A lake, with a swan gliding slowly across it, seems a perfect picture of serenity. But, unseen below the surface, fish, turtles, and frogs struggle each day for survival.

The important thing is to accept the struggles as a part of the beauty of life, not as blemishes on it.

There is either growth or decay. It is not possible for a living organism to be totally stagnant. A person is always changing, either changing for the better or changing for the worse. This is true when it comes to the mind, body, and spirit. A person is either becoming more spiritually fit or less spiritually fit. A person is either becoming closer to God or further away from God. A person is either getting closer to a drink or drug or further away from a drink or drug. My experience is that if I am working a 12-step program of recovery, I stay spiritually fit. Working a program of recovery to me means morning prayer and meditation, being grateful for things in my life, going to meetings, talking to my sponsor, being of service, and reaching out to another alcoholic. I am grateful that I have learned to be in acceptance and to live life on life’s terms. I am grateful that life is not perfect. I am grateful that I am sober and thinking clearly.