The Holidays

We hope everyone had a happy Thanksgiving weekend with family, friends and loved ones. The holidays can often trigger us to act out old emotional patterns, behaviors or feel new uncomfortable feelings. Keep watch on what comes up for you at this time because these are important areas for growth or contemplation. Being sober is a journey and each holiday is a new chance to decide what feels right for you, to set boundaries to take care of yourself and to reassess how things have changed positively.

Step 11

“Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.”


Step 11 is by far one of my favorite steps and one that has had lasting positive effects in my life. I strongly encourage the women I sponsor to read pages 86-88 daily, as a way to guide their morning meditative practice. I’ve heard people describe prayer as talking to God and meditation as listening to God. To me, prayer is a conversation with God, meditation is being one with God and makes possible the mindfulness I carry through my day to stop and listen to God. If I am driving down the road and someone cuts me off or won’t let me make a light before it’s red, I consider that the universe is guiding me. If I trust my higher power with my will and life, I have to be prepared for possible detours in what “I think is best”. Consistent contact with my higher power makes this a less painful process, where I’m not fighting the universe at every turn because I have a true conscious connection with it. If I am fighting where I’m at, I just pray for the willingness to surrender and do the next right thing in front of me. The universe has our best interest in mind, we just have to be okay with allowing it to take us there.


Exploration and play are important components to a healthy lifestyle, even as adults. We have to continue trying new things and going to new places to discover more of what we like and dislike. Getting stuck into a pattern of doing only safe, known things is an old pattern. It can restrict us from discovering more of the life that the universe has in store for us. Make a list of things you’ve always wanted to do but had some kind of excuse to avoid it. Investigate that excuse to see if it’s still valid or not for you. Sometimes the stories we have told ourselves in the past aren’t sufficient in the present day. Set a goal to do something you’ve avoided out of fear. Set a goal to do more of something you enjoy. Set a goal to try something new with someone you care about. Participate in the universe and find spontaneous joy.